“My morning is absolutely hectic!”
“I do not have any time in the morning to do any extra things. It is just impossible!”
“We run as chickens in the morning, everyone is stressed out and I just keep thinking how to don not forget something and leave home at time for school and work.”
Does it sound familiar to you? Do you experience the same challenges in the morning?
Many people I work with and coach often express this exactly opinion. However, our morning routine is VERY IMPORTANT as it is setting up our energy, metabolism and attitude for a whole day! Our morning is a gate to our success or failure during a whole day.
You probably heard many times that all successful people have a certain routine in the morning that they follow religiously as they perfectly understand that only this way, they can achieve much more during their day and therefore during their life.
So, this is true for everyone. And it is especially important for our children who are sensitive to many things, have variety learning and developmental challenges and differences. Just think about it!
Children often afraid of the unknown things. This can be new food on their plate or moving to a new class or school. So, then more predictable their morning is, then calmer kids will be. Their morning will be less stressful, more nourishing and encouraging and therefore, more productive.
What the morning routine could looks like?
- Waking up to a nice energising music. During wintertime you may consider a light lamp that mimics sunrise that helps the body receives enough light to build a biochemical response to ease the waking up process.
- Having a glass of water on empty stomach (lemon water is better) will help further to wake up body and importantly, the digestive system. You can prepare it from the evening. Put it on the bed side table that you and child remember it.
- Washing and brushing teeth can be a challenging process for some children. You can do it together with your child. It will be more fun; you can show her how you do it and lead by example!
- Stretching exercise, small jumps together around room, dry brushing for 2-5 mins will help further wake up the body, increase blood and lymph circulation, prepare digestive system to work.
- Breakfast is very important! It sets up the glucose level in the blood and provides energy to our kids that they can better focus and concentrate in the school. It should contain some protein! Avoid sweet, processed food! Porridge, home-made granola, eggs, whole flour pancakes, seeds, nuts, home-made yogurt or smoothie, all these will provide a variety of essential nutrients that provide stable energy level till lunch time. But how you eat your breakfast is very important as well! Spending some time together around table, allowing your kids to make some certain choices are empowering practice. For example, your child can choose what he wants to sprinkle on top of his porridge today: fresh berries, raisons, chia seeds, crashed almonds… Choice is her! Making positive associations between food and activities helps child to accept food you propose, recognize the value in it and setting up his intention toward activities. For, example you can say that porridge helps to do math’s test faster or smoothie helps to play football better.
- Eating together even for 10 mins and talking about a day ahead in a positive way, sets up the right attitude, wining mindset for a whole day. You can diffuse some peppermint or cinnamon essential oils (motivation blend) in the room during the morning. Highly sensitive children especially will positively respond to this.
- Dressing up can be a challenge as well. If you discuss and prepare things child will wear from the evening, would help to avoid uncertainty and conflict in the morning.
- Check all things that child needs to take to school. Together you can create the check list that can be colorful, descriptive and very visible as you child likes. You can put it on the door and before she lives the house you can together check if you have everything with you.
To implement such routine that takes 40-60 mins needs some practice and patience. But once you and your child master it, you will see enormous benefit of it. So, holiday season can be an excellent opportunity to start to practice it, implement some element
Any routine brings comfort and consistency to a child’s life, reducing number of micro-stresses l and increases a level of performance. Knowing what comes next, helps your child to reduce anxiety and boost self-confidence.
With a routine, a child will learn what she is supposed to do next and start doing it by her selves, gaining independence and get better with her time management. The visual plan of the morning routine or morning routine chart may help to some kids to move through the morning.
Here three tips how to start to implement this routine in your life:
- Prepare many things from the evening:
- What to wear
- What to eat (soaking porridge, making butter for pancakes and so on)
- Prepare main things for the lunch box
- Get up at least 30 min before children to set up your own positive intentions for a day, do your affirmations, to have you me-time, do your meditation.
If you feel frustrated at some point and want to yell, you rather whisper and talk very quietly. This will help you remember to use a calm voice rather than raising your voice or yelling. This will help to keep anxiety under control and it would have much bigger impact on your child.
I hope you get some ideas how to create a calmer and more productive morning routine that will lead a whole family to a successful day.
However, it still may be a challenge for parents who have kids with Autism. These families are facing another level of complexity for everything. Recognising this, I would be happy to assist anyone who needs an extra help.
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